Pause Guide
To get you started, here are several scripts and prompts for guiding 90 second pauses in your own collaborations. Take your time and allow for spaciousness. 90 seconds can be bigger than you think!
Where to Begin
A 90 Second Pause
Guide a Practice Read a Poem Contemplations/Quotes
Somatic Centering
Close your eyes or soften your gaze.
Take a deep breath and turn your attention to the physical sensations in your body.
Slowly scan your body from the top of your head to the bottom of your feet.
Where are you noticing sensations? The head? The throat? The heart? The lower belly? The feet?
As you scan, notice: what are the qualities of the physical sensations? Are they hot, warm, or cold? Sharp, dull, tense, or tingly? Let any descriptive quality come to mind, including numbness or lack of feeling.
If you become aware of any busy thinking, judging, or questions (such as “what are we doing?” or “I don’t have time for this”), simply relax and bring the awareness back to the physical body. and guide them away for now.
Take another deep breath.
Drop beneath your thoughts and feelings, to a deeper place of rest and stillness, of curiosity and wonder.
Spend a moment there in stillness.
Take one more deep breath and slowly open your eyes.
Box Breathing
Sitting comfortably in your seat, ensure that your back is supported and your feet are firmly on the ground.
Bring your awareness to your breath and observe the rise and fall of your chest and stomach.
Notice the subtle movements in your body. If your chest is rising but your stomach is not, relax your shoulders and allow your stomach to rise so that you are breathing more deeply.
Gently inhale through your nose for a count of four.
At the top, hold your breath for a count of four.
Now exhale completely through your mouth for a count of four.
Pause, here holding your breath for a count of four.
Let’s repeat together for three more rounds.
Inhale through the nose for four, hold for four, exhale through the mouth for four, hold for four (3x).
After your last exhale, allow the breath to become natural again and slowly open the eyes.
Grounding
Sitting comfortably in your seat, ensure that your back is supported and your feet are firmly on the ground. Gently close your eyes.
Take a few relaxing breaths. Become aware of the place in your body that you are aware from. Where in your body is most of your energy concentrated right now? Where are you operating from? For many of us it is from behind the eyes or somewhere in the head.
Quickly, and without thinking about it, become aware of your feet. Become very very interested in the sensations inside and around your feet.
Keep breathing naturally.
Allow more and more of your awareness to gather in your feet, becoming very attuned to all the sensation on the bottom of your soles. Imagine that you are aware from inside of your feet.
Take a final breath, exhaling through the mouth with a sigh. Remain grounded as your bring your awareness back into the room.
Basic Breath Practice
In Basic Breath Practice, you are invited to rest awareness in the experience of breathing
without trying to breathe in any particular way.
Simply notice your breath without attempting to manipulate, regulate, or alter it. At the same time, allow breathing to change in any way that occurs naturally – sighing, yawning, changes of depth or pace.
Variations:
• Notice the movements of breathing, in general or at any particular place in your body. Mentally note: "rising”, “falling", or similar words.
• Focus on the feeling of air entering and leaving through your nose or mouth.
• Follow the pathway of your breath focusing on the fullness at the top of the inhale and the
emptiness at the bottom of the exhale. Follow sensations along that pathway.
• Imagine your breath as soft ocean waves. Imagine your awareness as a boat resting on
the movements of those waves. Rest into that movement of rising and settling.
The primary focus is noticing your breathing. If other figures come into your
awareness – sensations, feelings, thoughts, environment sounds, etc. – take a moment to meet
each awareness with interest and a sense of welcome. Then, gently bring your awareness back
to breathing and again follow that movement.
This practice can also be done by focusing on a sensation other than your breath. You can rest your
awareness anywhere in your body or in the feeling of contact where you meet the ground. Let
your awareness rest in that area of sensation. Imagine your breath coming to meet that feeling.
In this variation of practice, your breathing is an extension of your focus. Notice moment to
moment. Be awake and receptive, without agenda or any attempt to change.
The noticing is a “being with” rather than an attempt to “do” so. Allow yourself to be open and
curious about whatever you notice while gently and consistently coming back to your primary
awareness.
Practices
Poems
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
~Rumi
Unconditional
Willing to experience aloneness,
We discover connection everywhere;
Turning to face our fears,
We meet the warrior who lives within;
Opening to loss,
We gain the embrace of the universe;
Surrendering into emptiness,
We find fullness without end.
Each condition we flee from pursues us,
Each condition we welcome transforms us
And becomes itself transformed
Into its radiant jewel-like essence.
I bow to the one who has made it so,
Who has crafted this Mysterious Game.
To play, it is purest delight;
To honor its form--true devotion.
~Jennifer Welwood
Everything is Waiting for You
Your great mistake is to act the drama as if you were alone.
As if life were a progressive and cunning crime
with no witness to the tiny hidden transgressions.
To feel abandoned is to deny
the intimacy of your surroundings.
Surely, even you, at times, have felt the grand array;
the swelling presence, and the chorus,
crowding out your solo voice.
You must note the way the soap dish enables you,
or the window latch grants you freedom.
Alertness is the hidden discipline of familiarity.
The stairs are your mentor of things to come,
the doors have always been there to frighten you and to invite you,
and the tiny speaker in the phone is your dream-ladder to divinity.
Put down the weight of your aloneness
and ease into the conversation.
The kettle is singing even as it pours you a drink,
the cooking pots have left their arrogant aloofness and
seen the good in you at last.
All the birds and creatures of the world
are unutterably themselves.
Everything is waiting for you.
~David Whyte
We Break to Join
We have hatched
We have cracked our limits
We have stumbled
out to blinding risk.
Each breaking brings us room,
until we press our growing
against the next shell.
And the final shell we break
will open us to death.
But these current crackings
come so often,
we barely rest and stretch
and let ourselves be a little,
before we come aware
of a constriction.
New walls compress
against our spreading arms,
our swelling needs.
We are cramped
by a smallness,
by a law, by a custom.
We are live files
grinding against confinement.
Yet shell by shell we break
past a culture that stunts.
By raw will
of woman towards creation,
I move. And you.
We use even the shards.
We bury them
to fertilize our earth again.
Each of us,
cracking the madness
the drastic madness that says
we are divided.
We break to join!
~Susan Silvermarie
Empty yourself of everything.
Let the mind become still.
The ten thousand things rise and fall
while the Self watches their return.
They grow and flourish
and then return to the source.
Returning to the source is stillness,
which is the way of nature.
The way of nature is unchanging.
Knowing constancy is insight.
Not knowing constancy
leads to disaster.
Knowing constancy,
the mind is open.
With an open mind,
you will be openhearted.
Being openhearted,
you will act royally.
~Lao Tsu
Working Together
We shape our self
to fit this world
and by the world
are shaped again.
The visible
and the invisible
working together
in common cause,
to produce
the miraculous.
I am thinking of the way
the intangible air
traveled at speed
round a shaped wing
easily
holds our weight.
So may we, in this life
trust
to those elements
we have yet to see
or imagine,
and look for the true
shape of our own self,
by forming it well
to the great
intangibles about us.
~David Whyte
Break
Rest, now.
Let the weight you run from every day
now draw you down.
Later there will be time to tend
to everything left undone.
Now, rest.
Fall
into your own bones
lying horizontal on this ground.
Come
into your dark corners.
Come into this
original nakedness
under all the layers.
Come where all your losses
split
you
open.
Don’t rise,
yet —
Rest.
Be drawn deeper down
into the salt tide of tears.
Let grief wash you,
then drown you
beyond the name
you first were given,
when you reached to touch
your own mother’s face for the very first time,
and she smiled her light down into you.
Now reach those same fingers
for the face of infinity —
so that, opening your eyes
you will know
the one dreaming you
is pleased with you,
that everything seen
is your self,
and that now is the time
to rise wholehearted into the work
aching to be animated
by precisely you.
~Brook McNamara
Contemplations/Quotes
We need a politics of tenderness more than ever. Not tenderness as capitulation to particular conclusions that have already been made. Not tenderness as “if you don’t see the world as I do, there’s something wrong with you.” But tenderness as the nurturing of grace that allows something different, something even beautiful, to be born in the midst of the fires.
~Báyò Akómoláfé
“We can’t do it alone…we are not capable of healing in isolation. We need other
people…we are hurt in relationship and we heal in relationship”
~Dr. Diane Poole Heller
”What if the way we respond to the crisis is part of the crisis?”
~Bayo Akomolafe
“Times are urgent, Let us slow down.”
~Bayo Akomolafe